Forgive yourself

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No matter how many mistakes you have made, there are in the past. God has cleaned and made you new. Let those who live in your past and keep reminding you all the wrongs you have done not to affect your new you and your faith. God honors our faith not our past. We all make mistakes at one point in our lives but it shouldn’t define you. Also; you cannot repeat the same mistake repeatedly. Stop going back to the bad habits, stop hurting people, your family and loved ones by your words and actions.
Definition of mistake is a wrong action attributable to bad judgment or ignorance or inattention. You might have made bad judgment about a situation leading to make bad decisions or said unpleasant things to your family or friends and hurting your loved ones. When you confess your wrongs to the Lord, He will cast them as far as the east is from the west, and He will remember them no more. (1John 1:9-10; If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us). Ask forgiveness too to the ones you have wronged, it doesn’t make you a lesser human being but it shows your maturing and your sincerity.
Sometimes we cause self-inflict pain in our lives by not forgiving our own self. Yes, you might have hurt by other people but there are lots of situations where we hurt ourselves. We hurt ourselves when we hold on to the weight of past mistakes and failures. We do more harm than good to keep beating ourselves up for the wrong decisions made in the past. We hurt ourselves when we don’t see anything beyond that and become comfortable with the “pain”. I believe God is telling you today to “let it go” forgive yourself. Allow God to start working in you and the healing process resume. Remember forgiveness is for you.
There is nothing to gain by holding yourself in unforgiveness and there is everything to gain by releasing yourself from unforgiveness. You got to let go and make move to a positive direction. Never give up on yourself after a mistake, learn from it.  Forgive and set yourself free.

Communication

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Communication in any relationship is important. Our communication with God is extremely as important as well. We communicate with Him through prayer. Communication requires two people to respond to each other. It’s like oxygen when people refuse to communicate it shuts off and closes that open air of communication in a relationship. Life without prayer is dead. Marriage without communication is dead. Social media is not communication, telling everybody who cares to hear about your problems is not communication. Direct communication with your spouse is what is required. Direct communication with God is our daily requirement. Amen!

 

 

Prayer for the one who is hurting

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In Spirit, To the one who is hurting right now; I pray that God wipes away all of your tears and give you peace. Whatever the situation may be, whatever is troubling you, whatever might be causing you pain, whatever may have caused you to hurt, I pray that God will bring healing to you. I pray that you will find room in your heart to allow God to minister to your spiritual needs. Let God arise in your life. May all your enemies be scattered and put to shame. I pray that God will perfect that which concerns you. I pray that God will turn your mourning into dancing again and lift you up on eagles wings. May your strength be renewed. May you be able to smile again. I pray that even though your weeping may endure for a night, may your joy come in the morning. Whatever you are finding difficult to let go of, may God strengthen you and enable you to let go and let God move you on. I believe God is saying you have to move on, you have to let go of the pain, the hurt and the disappointments. He cares for you. I pray that today will be the beginning of change in your life. May God bless you and keep you, may the countenance of the Almighty shine upon you, remain with you and abide with you. May the joy of the Lord be your strength today and always AMEN.

 

Speak and walk in love

IMG_1917Hate is a big word that we need to be careful of, not to just throw it around to our loved ones. Hate is defined as to have a strong aversion about something or someone. It is associated with emotions on how we feel. There are positive and negatives characteristics to hate. To me it’s something you cannot stand, you despise and you don’t want anything to do with it, right? How come then it is easy for us to throw it to our loved ones. I’m talking about family love and respect. One cannot say I hate my mother because she redirected you from the wrong choices you make. You cannot say I hate my father because he told you not to hang around with bad crowd or I hate my brother/sister for just inconclusive reason, that’s negative hate. Hating a negative behavior doesn’t mean they hate you. We often throw that word to our loved ones not realizing the impact it makes to that individual. The Word of God says death and life are in the power of the tongue – Proverbs 18:21. Hate can be in a form of behavior doing cruelty and evil deeds. God wants us to speak and walk in love not hate. Today I want to focus on verbally using the word “hate’ to our loved ones.
Let’s look at what the bible says about hate. Its ok to hate things that are contrary to the Word of God and that is positive hate. The Word of God tells us to overcome evil with good, to love our enemies and keep doing good. Matthew 5:44 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who prosecute you. Proverbs 6:16-19 There are six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to Him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil, a false witness who pours out lies and a person who stirs up conflict in the community.
I remember when my son and nephew (whom I always refer to as my son as well because he is my twin sister’s son anyway they all call us moms) were very young at the time. They have two years apart difference in age. They would play together and have fun as any kid will do. One time one of them busted into tears crying saying “I hate my brother, he’s mean to me”. Then took a moment with him to find out what mean thing the brother did. Of course, only to find out they were fighting over toys, on who plays what longer instead of sharing. We had to sit them down and told them of course you will annoy each other it’s normal you are siblings (per my family) but never use the word hate to each other. We told them their lips should practice to use loving words. In their young minds I know it could be difficult for them to understand it but it starts at the young age to implement positive values that would carry them to their adulthood.
“No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.” – Nelson Mandela
Yes, practice to use loving words around your family. No matter how you frustrated or how distasteful a behavior is, don’t use the word hate. Most of the times we take advantage with our family members thinking it’s a right thing to do, no it is not. It starts at home going to the outside to live positive and to spread love not hate. I read an article of a teenager seeking help on how to deal with anger and hate. The teenager was saying she hates her own behavior towards her family members especially her mother. She is rude and very disrespectful to both and often times throw “I hate you” to them. That was a big step for her to seek help, I applaud her for that even if I do not know her. Rather seek professional help than to make that kind of behavior/attitude norm in your life. It’s not physically, mentally and spiritually healthy for you and for the people around you
In closing; next time take a pause and think if it’s worth it to say “I hate you” when you having a confrontation with your family. Show love to your family and tell them you love them.

 

Fathers take care of your children

Some long to spend just a little time with their children any chance given, some don’t even bother to give time to be with them. As simple as a phone call to child to find out they are ok means a whole lot to a child. The society we living in now the structure and a function of …in quote “family” has changed. There are children who are born out of marriage some due to consequence of cohabitation, adultery or promiscuousness resulting in innocent children being conceived. In that inconvenient scenery, you find some men having children with different women leading to lack of accountability to take care or be there for the child. My viewpoint however, whether a child is born out of wedlock/out of marriage, in the marriage or whatever the case might be, it is the responsibility for a man to take care of their children as well
To the mothers there is no way, no how to say you can be both a father and a mother figure to a child. There is no possible way to do both. Having a positive male role model on a child’s life is crucial as it is needed. Therefore, if a child’s father is willing to have a relationship with the child or children, mothers by all means do allow him to do so. It’s not about either of you, it’s about the children. I don’t understand mothers who use their children as a fighting tool with their children’s father. Why would someone in their right state of mind not allow a relationship between a father and a child, that’s illogical to me unless of cause it’s per court order. Now to dear father’s; whether you are with the child’s mother or not, as a seed of that child you must partake taking your role as a father. Remember that woman never conceived that child by herself, you both took part.
“How is that possible”? –a father promises to pick up a child How on a certain day and doesn’t show up. And not even a phone call of apology. Not calling a child to wish them a happy birthday. How is it for a mother to tell that child that its ok and apologize on your behalf.
I tuned in to this program on the radio station some time ago they were discussing about men who have children outside their marriages and it’s a hush hush situation, up until the child is grown and they take it upon themselves to search for their father. It cannot get any heartbreaking than that. The Word of God says husbands are the head of the house. I don’t believe as the head of the household you bring misery and pain in the family. Fathers be responsible, take care of your children and young man don’t have kids yet if you cannot take care of them. Young woman be responsible to one self, no one has the power of your body than you.