Forgive yourself


No matter how many mistakes you have made, there are in the past. God has cleaned and made you new. Let those who live in your past and keep reminding you all the wrongs you have done not to affect your new you and your faith. God honors our faith not our past. We all make mistakes at one point in our lives but it shouldn’t define you. Also; you cannot repeat the same mistake repeatedly. Stop going back to the bad habits, stop hurting people, your family and loved ones by your words and actions.
Definition of mistake is a wrong action attributable to bad judgment or ignorance or inattention. You might have made bad judgment about a situation leading to make bad decisions or said unpleasant things to your family or friends and hurting your loved ones. When you confess your wrongs to the Lord, He will cast them as far as the east is from the west, and He will remember them no more. (1John 1:9-10; If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us). Ask forgiveness too to the ones you have wronged, it doesn’t make you a lesser human being but it shows your maturing and your sincerity.
Sometimes we cause self-inflict pain in our lives by not forgiving our own self. Yes, you might have hurt by other people but there are lots of situations where we hurt ourselves. We hurt ourselves when we hold on to the weight of past mistakes and failures. We do more harm than good to keep beating ourselves up for the wrong decisions made in the past. We hurt ourselves when we don’t see anything beyond that and become comfortable with the “pain”. I believe God is telling you today to “let it go” forgive yourself. Allow God to start working in you and the healing process resume. Remember forgiveness is for you.
There is nothing to gain by holding yourself in unforgiveness and there is everything to gain by releasing yourself from unforgiveness. You got to let go and make move to a positive direction. Never give up on yourself after a mistake, learn from it.  Forgive and set yourself free.




Families can be one of the severe pull her/him down syndrome there is in somebody’s life I tell you. Just because they know you, they sometimes assume they have a right to down cast you every time. I witnessed an act of sadness when family members came head on accusing each other of not being supportive to one another. FAMILY no matter what – should always come first. First and foremost; love one another, support each other, celebrate one another, encourage each other and build one another. If your family is fenced with that strong bond of unity nothing can come in and try to destroy or divide. It starts within the family; how can you love a stranger when you don’t love your own family. Show the outside what is in the inside •••LOVE. Charity begins at home.
I encourage sibling bond and love all the time. It’s sad when I talk to young people and I hear stories like “I cannot get along with my sibling/s or I haven’t spoken with my sister or brother for years I mean how is that possible. God designed families, we need to fight for our families not to fight with our families. Talk things over rather than sweep them under carpet. I realized the causes of most family strain sometimes is unforgiveness. In most families there is bitterness, anger, hate and sometimes envy of which it not supposed to be. Once again let’s uplift our families and show support and love to one another.
Colossians 3:13 Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.
James 4:11 “Speak not evil one of another, brethren. He that speaketh evil of his brother, and judgeth his brother, speaketh evil of the law, and judgeth the law: but if thou judge the law, thou art not a doer of the law, but a judge.”
Proverbs 11:29 He who brings trouble on his family will inherit only wind, and the fool will be servant to the wise
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.


Do not procrastinate


Recently I took courage and followed through with my doctor’s order and had mammogram done. I have been procrastinating this visit for the past year. Considering that I am at high risk through family history I was inclined to do the test as soon as possible. They say prevention is better than cure. There is no excuse for procrastination. Sometimes it is the result of laziness. I think a lot of us will identify with that. We delay things that we know should never delay.

Delay to offer your apology.
Delay to heal the broken relationship
Or dealing with anger.

Ephesians 4:26 In your anger do not sin; Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.
There was a certain man who had so much anger towards his father. He felt like the father was not there in his life so everything negative in his life he blamed his father for it. As a Christian, he knew about God’s principles on forgiveness. One day he heard a preacher saying, ‘if you do not forgive those who hurt you, you are in prison of your own.’

The Preacher’s words tormented him so much that he really wanted to talk to his father. Well, it was too little too late, his father was in a terminal condition in the hospital. He wasn’t verbal anymore and could not recognize his surroundings. The young man felt so bad about procrastinating. Now he couldn’t get to tell his father that he loves him. Life is too short for hatred and all the evils that the devil wants us to dwell on.

Hebrews 3:12-13,15 See to it, brothers, that none of you has a sinful, unbelieving heart that turns away from the living God. But be encourage one another daily, if it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.
15, As has just been said ” Today, is hear his voice, do not harden your hearts as you did in the rebellion.”

Procrastinating is a bad habit — why? You never seem to do anything because you are never ready.
Never ready to get married
Never ready to have children
Never ready to go church

Anytime is not always the right time. I will give you another example. People who live in the State of Indiana will understand this. On snowy days, will you leave your house wearing open toes shoes? You don’t have to pray hard to figure out if you must wear comfortable and safe-to-walk shoes. Just like LIFE, we should find out what season we are in and live it appropriately.
Is it too late not to procrastinate? No, God can redeem your time.

Joel 2:25 I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten….
We serve a God who will always give us another chance. Be reminded that small things will hinder us from our relationship with Christ and procrastinating is one of them. Now I have taught myself to have a ‘to do list’ for each day. If I don’t accomplish it then I reschedule. This makes me stay focused and disciplined.
The results of the mammogram came through. Before opening the letter, I prayed and said, ” Let your name be glorified, you who formed me in my mother’s womb knows and cares about me. Thank You for these results.” Then I opened the letter.
Proverbs 27: Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring forth.
Let’s give our all to him the Lord of Lords.