Speak and walk in love

IMG_1917Hate is a big word that we need to be careful of, not to just throw it around to our loved ones. Hate is defined as to have a strong aversion about something or someone. It is associated with emotions on how we feel. There are positive and negatives characteristics to hate. To me it’s something you cannot stand, you despise and you don’t want anything to do with it, right? How come then it is easy for us to throw it to our loved ones. I’m talking about family love and respect. One cannot say I hate my mother because she redirected you from the wrong choices you make. You cannot say I hate my father because he told you not to hang around with bad crowd or I hate my brother/sister for just inconclusive reason, that’s negative hate. Hating a negative behavior doesn’t mean they hate you. We often throw that word to our loved ones not realizing the impact it makes to that individual. The Word of God says death and life are in the power of the tongue – Proverbs 18:21. Hate can be in a form of behavior doing cruelty and evil deeds. God wants us to speak and walk in love not hate. Today I want to focus on verbally using the word “hate’ to our loved ones.
Let’s look at what the bible says about hate. Its ok to hate things that are contrary to the Word of God and that is positive hate. The Word of God tells us to overcome evil with good, to love our enemies and keep doing good. Matthew 5:44 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who prosecute you. Proverbs 6:16-19 There are six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to Him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil, a false witness who pours out lies and a person who stirs up conflict in the community.
I remember when my son and nephew (whom I always refer to as my son as well because he is my twin sister’s son anyway they all call us moms) were very young at the time. They have two years apart difference in age. They would play together and have fun as any kid will do. One time one of them busted into tears crying saying “I hate my brother, he’s mean to me”. Then took a moment with him to find out what mean thing the brother did. Of course, only to find out they were fighting over toys, on who plays what longer instead of sharing. We had to sit them down and told them of course you will annoy each other it’s normal you are siblings (per my family) but never use the word hate to each other. We told them their lips should practice to use loving words. In their young minds I know it could be difficult for them to understand it but it starts at the young age to implement positive values that would carry them to their adulthood.
“No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.” – Nelson Mandela
Yes, practice to use loving words around your family. No matter how you frustrated or how distasteful a behavior is, don’t use the word hate. Most of the times we take advantage with our family members thinking it’s a right thing to do, no it is not. It starts at home going to the outside to live positive and to spread love not hate. I read an article of a teenager seeking help on how to deal with anger and hate. The teenager was saying she hates her own behavior towards her family members especially her mother. She is rude and very disrespectful to both and often times throw “I hate you” to them. That was a big step for her to seek help, I applaud her for that even if I do not know her. Rather seek professional help than to make that kind of behavior/attitude norm in your life. It’s not physically, mentally and spiritually healthy for you and for the people around you
In closing; next time take a pause and think if it’s worth it to say “I hate you” when you having a confrontation with your family. Show love to your family and tell them you love them.

 

Fathers take care of your children

Some long to spend just a little time with their children any chance given, some don’t even bother to give time to be with them. As simple as a phone call to child to find out they are ok means a whole lot to a child. The society we living in now the structure and a function of …in quote “family” has changed. There are children who are born out of marriage some due to consequence of cohabitation, adultery or promiscuousness resulting in innocent children being conceived. In that inconvenient scenery, you find some men having children with different women leading to lack of accountability to take care or be there for the child. My viewpoint however, whether a child is born out of wedlock/out of marriage, in the marriage or whatever the case might be, it is the responsibility for a man to take care of their children as well
To the mothers there is no way, no how to say you can be both a father and a mother figure to a child. There is no possible way to do both. Having a positive male role model on a child’s life is crucial as it is needed. Therefore, if a child’s father is willing to have a relationship with the child or children, mothers by all means do allow him to do so. It’s not about either of you, it’s about the children. I don’t understand mothers who use their children as a fighting tool with their children’s father. Why would someone in their right state of mind not allow a relationship between a father and a child, that’s illogical to me unless of cause it’s per court order. Now to dear father’s; whether you are with the child’s mother or not, as a seed of that child you must partake taking your role as a father. Remember that woman never conceived that child by herself, you both took part.
“How is that possible”? –a father promises to pick up a child How on a certain day and doesn’t show up. And not even a phone call of apology. Not calling a child to wish them a happy birthday. How is it for a mother to tell that child that its ok and apologize on your behalf.
I tuned in to this program on the radio station some time ago they were discussing about men who have children outside their marriages and it’s a hush hush situation, up until the child is grown and they take it upon themselves to search for their father. It cannot get any heartbreaking than that. The Word of God says husbands are the head of the house. I don’t believe as the head of the household you bring misery and pain in the family. Fathers be responsible, take care of your children and young man don’t have kids yet if you cannot take care of them. Young woman be responsible to one self, no one has the power of your body than you.

 

Support one another

IMG_3317

They wanna see you do good, but never better than them. Remember that.” Such a profound quote.

Not everyone has your best interests at heart. We live in a society that relishes tearing each other down. That allows envy, jealousy and backstabbing spirit work through some people. Most chances are; they sadly destroy relationships i.e. family relationships, marriage relationship, friendships etc. Some see your potential and have resources to help you but they will never lift a finger to support you because of competitive spirit. However; God is above it all and will see you through.
The GOOD NEWS is; where God leads He always provides, He will connect you to the right people and can even cause your enemies to support you hallelujah! As you step out, you stepping out in favor and coming in blessings. Whether the enemy approves it or not, when God is in it nobody can destroy it. Your company/business will soar, your projects will succeed, you will flourish in Jesus mighty name.
Go ahead and do your business, wishing well those who have gone before you. The Word of God says in Galatians 5:22-26: But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live by the Spirit, let us also keep in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.

 

Losing a loved one

IMG_3536

To those who lost their loved ones: Words seem inadequate to express or to console somebody who has lost their loved one. It doesn’t matter if that person was old or young; child or an adult. Whether it’s a spouse, aunt, uncle, sister, brother, etc. the pain is the same and unbearable. How do you console a mother who has lost their child or who has lost their husband? A father who has lost their child or who has lost their wife. A child who has lost their parents. That is the most painful and difficult experience that anyone can go through.

When I lost my mom, I felt like the other part of me went with her. When I lost my sister and my brothers, I couldn’t comprehend the pain and devastation. Life had to go on after I lost my dad and I didn’t understand why. You would think it will appear on the local news, on every radio station or have a big bill board informing the whole world to stop in a minute in honor of your beloved one who has just departed. No, it doesn’t happen that way as painful as it is life carries on. It is hard, time does not heal all wounds, God does. Psalm 147:3 He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. It’s a process you go through with God on your side. God never promised an easy life, He promised that He will be there with us. He will comfort us, He will give us strength. Matthew 5:4 Blessed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted. Isaiah 41:10 Fear not, for I am with you, be not dismayed, for I am Your God. I will strengthen you, yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

Isaiah 43:1-3 But now, this is what the Lord says He who created you, Jacob, He who formed you, Israel: “Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers; they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. For I am the Lord your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior; Let’s look at John 11:1-44 Jesus was deeply moved and wept at the loss of His Lazarus. John 11:4 When He heard this. Jesus said, “This sickness will not end in death. No, it is for God’s glory so that God’s Son may be glorified through it”.

John 11:25 — “I am the resurrection and the life. The one who believes in me, will live even though they die. God has also prepared a new home for us where there will be no more death, tears or pain (Revelation 21:1-4). It is painful in our hearts that we will no longer be with them here on earth however one day we will meet once again in our heavenly home. May you find comfort in the Lord. May He wrap His loving arms around you during the difficult time of mourning.

 

Do not procrastinate

IMG_3137

Recently I took courage and followed through with my doctor’s order and had mammogram done. I have been procrastinating this visit for the past year. Considering that I am at high risk through family history I was inclined to do the test as soon as possible. They say prevention is better than cure. There is no excuse for procrastination. Sometimes it is the result of laziness. I think a lot of us will identify with that. We delay things that we know should never delay.

Delay to offer your apology.
Delay to heal the broken relationship
Or dealing with anger.

Ephesians 4:26 In your anger do not sin; Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.
There was a certain man who had so much anger towards his father. He felt like the father was not there in his life so everything negative in his life he blamed his father for it. As a Christian, he knew about God’s principles on forgiveness. One day he heard a preacher saying, ‘if you do not forgive those who hurt you, you are in prison of your own.’

The Preacher’s words tormented him so much that he really wanted to talk to his father. Well, it was too little too late, his father was in a terminal condition in the hospital. He wasn’t verbal anymore and could not recognize his surroundings. The young man felt so bad about procrastinating. Now he couldn’t get to tell his father that he loves him. Life is too short for hatred and all the evils that the devil wants us to dwell on.

Hebrews 3:12-13,15 See to it, brothers, that none of you has a sinful, unbelieving heart that turns away from the living God. But be encourage one another daily, if it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.
15, As has just been said ” Today, is hear his voice, do not harden your hearts as you did in the rebellion.”

Procrastinating is a bad habit — why? You never seem to do anything because you are never ready.
Never ready to get married
Never ready to have children
Never ready to go church

Anytime is not always the right time. I will give you another example. People who live in the State of Indiana will understand this. On snowy days, will you leave your house wearing open toes shoes? You don’t have to pray hard to figure out if you must wear comfortable and safe-to-walk shoes. Just like LIFE, we should find out what season we are in and live it appropriately.
Is it too late not to procrastinate? No, God can redeem your time.

Joel 2:25 I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten….
We serve a God who will always give us another chance. Be reminded that small things will hinder us from our relationship with Christ and procrastinating is one of them. Now I have taught myself to have a ‘to do list’ for each day. If I don’t accomplish it then I reschedule. This makes me stay focused and disciplined.
The results of the mammogram came through. Before opening the letter, I prayed and said, ” Let your name be glorified, you who formed me in my mother’s womb knows and cares about me. Thank You for these results.” Then I opened the letter.
Proverbs 27: Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring forth.
Let’s give our all to him the Lord of Lords.

(07/13/09)