Forgive yourself

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No matter how many mistakes you have made, there are in the past. God has cleaned and made you new. Let those who live in your past and keep reminding you all the wrongs you have done not to affect your new you and your faith. God honors our faith not our past. We all make mistakes at one point in our lives but it shouldn’t define you. Also; you cannot repeat the same mistake repeatedly. Stop going back to the bad habits, stop hurting people, your family and loved ones by your words and actions.
Definition of mistake is a wrong action attributable to bad judgment or ignorance or inattention. You might have made bad judgment about a situation leading to make bad decisions or said unpleasant things to your family or friends and hurting your loved ones. When you confess your wrongs to the Lord, He will cast them as far as the east is from the west, and He will remember them no more. (1John 1:9-10; If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us). Ask forgiveness too to the ones you have wronged, it doesn’t make you a lesser human being but it shows your maturing and your sincerity.
Sometimes we cause self-inflict pain in our lives by not forgiving our own self. Yes, you might have hurt by other people but there are lots of situations where we hurt ourselves. We hurt ourselves when we hold on to the weight of past mistakes and failures. We do more harm than good to keep beating ourselves up for the wrong decisions made in the past. We hurt ourselves when we don’t see anything beyond that and become comfortable with the “pain”. I believe God is telling you today to “let it go” forgive yourself. Allow God to start working in you and the healing process resume. Remember forgiveness is for you.
There is nothing to gain by holding yourself in unforgiveness and there is everything to gain by releasing yourself from unforgiveness. You got to let go and make move to a positive direction. Never give up on yourself after a mistake, learn from it.  Forgive and set yourself free.

Family

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Families can be one of the severe pull her/him down syndrome there is in somebody’s life I tell you. Just because they know you, they sometimes assume they have a right to down cast you every time. I witnessed an act of sadness when family members came head on accusing each other of not being supportive to one another. FAMILY no matter what – should always come first. First and foremost; love one another, support each other, celebrate one another, encourage each other and build one another. If your family is fenced with that strong bond of unity nothing can come in and try to destroy or divide. It starts within the family; how can you love a stranger when you don’t love your own family. Show the outside what is in the inside •••LOVE. Charity begins at home.
I encourage sibling bond and love all the time. It’s sad when I talk to young people and I hear stories like “I cannot get along with my sibling/s or I haven’t spoken with my sister or brother for years I mean how is that possible. God designed families, we need to fight for our families not to fight with our families. Talk things over rather than sweep them under carpet. I realized the causes of most family strain sometimes is unforgiveness. In most families there is bitterness, anger, hate and sometimes envy of which it not supposed to be. Once again let’s uplift our families and show support and love to one another.
Colossians 3:13 Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.
James 4:11 “Speak not evil one of another, brethren. He that speaketh evil of his brother, and judgeth his brother, speaketh evil of the law, and judgeth the law: but if thou judge the law, thou art not a doer of the law, but a judge.”
Proverbs 11:29 He who brings trouble on his family will inherit only wind, and the fool will be servant to the wise
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

 

Communication

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Communication in any relationship is important. Our communication with God is extremely as important as well. We communicate with Him through prayer. Communication requires two people to respond to each other. It’s like oxygen when people refuse to communicate it shuts off and closes that open air of communication in a relationship. Life without prayer is dead. Marriage without communication is dead. Social media is not communication, telling everybody who cares to hear about your problems is not communication. Direct communication with your spouse is what is required. Direct communication with God is our daily requirement. Amen!

 

 

Money cannot buy the greatest gift from God

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Money can buy many things. In fact it can almost buy everything. Money can by friends if you’re lonely. It can buy planes or boats to transport you where cars can’t. Money can even buy the body’s most vital organs and doctors to perform the procedures. But the one thing that money cannot buy is the greatest gift from God and that is love. Self love is good for what it does but self love can not replace the love that we NEED TO RECEIVE from sources outside of ourselves. People often say that they are content without someone loving them but that’s not the case for the majority of people. As people we often find ourselves chasing after love and the reason is because we will suffocate without it in the same manner that we would without sufficient amount of oxygen. Love is something we need. Take a look at the commandments Jesus said were the greatest. Love God and love your sister and brother. Husband love your wives and wives love your husbands. A lack of love is destroying our world, homes, and communities. Love is desired, required and when it’s acquired the devil gets fearful. Praise God through loving Him, yourself and your sisters and brothers saved and unsaved.

Speak and walk in love

IMG_1917Hate is a big word that we need to be careful of, not to just throw it around to our loved ones. Hate is defined as to have a strong aversion about something or someone. It is associated with emotions on how we feel. There are positive and negatives characteristics to hate. To me it’s something you cannot stand, you despise and you don’t want anything to do with it, right? How come then it is easy for us to throw it to our loved ones. I’m talking about family love and respect. One cannot say I hate my mother because she redirected you from the wrong choices you make. You cannot say I hate my father because he told you not to hang around with bad crowd or I hate my brother/sister for just inconclusive reason, that’s negative hate. Hating a negative behavior doesn’t mean they hate you. We often throw that word to our loved ones not realizing the impact it makes to that individual. The Word of God says death and life are in the power of the tongue – Proverbs 18:21. Hate can be in a form of behavior doing cruelty and evil deeds. God wants us to speak and walk in love not hate. Today I want to focus on verbally using the word “hate’ to our loved ones.
Let’s look at what the bible says about hate. Its ok to hate things that are contrary to the Word of God and that is positive hate. The Word of God tells us to overcome evil with good, to love our enemies and keep doing good. Matthew 5:44 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who prosecute you. Proverbs 6:16-19 There are six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to Him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil, a false witness who pours out lies and a person who stirs up conflict in the community.
I remember when my son and nephew (whom I always refer to as my son as well because he is my twin sister’s son anyway they all call us moms) were very young at the time. They have two years apart difference in age. They would play together and have fun as any kid will do. One time one of them busted into tears crying saying “I hate my brother, he’s mean to me”. Then took a moment with him to find out what mean thing the brother did. Of course, only to find out they were fighting over toys, on who plays what longer instead of sharing. We had to sit them down and told them of course you will annoy each other it’s normal you are siblings (per my family) but never use the word hate to each other. We told them their lips should practice to use loving words. In their young minds I know it could be difficult for them to understand it but it starts at the young age to implement positive values that would carry them to their adulthood.
“No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.” – Nelson Mandela
Yes, practice to use loving words around your family. No matter how you frustrated or how distasteful a behavior is, don’t use the word hate. Most of the times we take advantage with our family members thinking it’s a right thing to do, no it is not. It starts at home going to the outside to live positive and to spread love not hate. I read an article of a teenager seeking help on how to deal with anger and hate. The teenager was saying she hates her own behavior towards her family members especially her mother. She is rude and very disrespectful to both and often times throw “I hate you” to them. That was a big step for her to seek help, I applaud her for that even if I do not know her. Rather seek professional help than to make that kind of behavior/attitude norm in your life. It’s not physically, mentally and spiritually healthy for you and for the people around you
In closing; next time take a pause and think if it’s worth it to say “I hate you” when you having a confrontation with your family. Show love to your family and tell them you love them.