Fathers take care of your children

Some long to spend just a little time with their children any chance given, some don’t even bother to give time to be with them. As simple as a phone call to child to find out they are ok means a whole lot to a child. The society we living in now the structure and a function of …in quote “family” has changed. There are children who are born out of marriage some due to consequence of cohabitation, adultery or promiscuousness resulting in innocent children being conceived. In that inconvenient scenery, you find some men having children with different women leading to lack of accountability to take care or be there for the child. My viewpoint however, whether a child is born out of wedlock/out of marriage, in the marriage or whatever the case might be, it is the responsibility for a man to take care of their children as well
To the mothers there is no way, no how to say you can be both a father and a mother figure to a child. There is no possible way to do both. Having a positive male role model on a child’s life is crucial as it is needed. Therefore, if a child’s father is willing to have a relationship with the child or children, mothers by all means do allow him to do so. It’s not about either of you, it’s about the children. I don’t understand mothers who use their children as a fighting tool with their children’s father. Why would someone in their right state of mind not allow a relationship between a father and a child, that’s illogical to me unless of cause it’s per court order. Now to dear father’s; whether you are with the child’s mother or not, as a seed of that child you must partake taking your role as a father. Remember that woman never conceived that child by herself, you both took part.
“How is that possible”? –a father promises to pick up a child How on a certain day and doesn’t show up. And not even a phone call of apology. Not calling a child to wish them a happy birthday. How is it for a mother to tell that child that its ok and apologize on your behalf.
I tuned in to this program on the radio station some time ago they were discussing about men who have children outside their marriages and it’s a hush hush situation, up until the child is grown and they take it upon themselves to search for their father. It cannot get any heartbreaking than that. The Word of God says husbands are the head of the house. I don’t believe as the head of the household you bring misery and pain in the family. Fathers be responsible, take care of your children and young man don’t have kids yet if you cannot take care of them. Young woman be responsible to one self, no one has the power of your body than you.

 

Do not procrastinate

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Recently I took courage and followed through with my doctor’s order and had mammogram done. I have been procrastinating this visit for the past year. Considering that I am at high risk through family history I was inclined to do the test as soon as possible. They say prevention is better than cure. There is no excuse for procrastination. Sometimes it is the result of laziness. I think a lot of us will identify with that. We delay things that we know should never delay.

Delay to offer your apology.
Delay to heal the broken relationship
Or dealing with anger.

Ephesians 4:26 In your anger do not sin; Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.
There was a certain man who had so much anger towards his father. He felt like the father was not there in his life so everything negative in his life he blamed his father for it. As a Christian, he knew about God’s principles on forgiveness. One day he heard a preacher saying, ‘if you do not forgive those who hurt you, you are in prison of your own.’

The Preacher’s words tormented him so much that he really wanted to talk to his father. Well, it was too little too late, his father was in a terminal condition in the hospital. He wasn’t verbal anymore and could not recognize his surroundings. The young man felt so bad about procrastinating. Now he couldn’t get to tell his father that he loves him. Life is too short for hatred and all the evils that the devil wants us to dwell on.

Hebrews 3:12-13,15 See to it, brothers, that none of you has a sinful, unbelieving heart that turns away from the living God. But be encourage one another daily, if it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.
15, As has just been said ” Today, is hear his voice, do not harden your hearts as you did in the rebellion.”

Procrastinating is a bad habit — why? You never seem to do anything because you are never ready.
Never ready to get married
Never ready to have children
Never ready to go church

Anytime is not always the right time. I will give you another example. People who live in the State of Indiana will understand this. On snowy days, will you leave your house wearing open toes shoes? You don’t have to pray hard to figure out if you must wear comfortable and safe-to-walk shoes. Just like LIFE, we should find out what season we are in and live it appropriately.
Is it too late not to procrastinate? No, God can redeem your time.

Joel 2:25 I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten….
We serve a God who will always give us another chance. Be reminded that small things will hinder us from our relationship with Christ and procrastinating is one of them. Now I have taught myself to have a ‘to do list’ for each day. If I don’t accomplish it then I reschedule. This makes me stay focused and disciplined.
The results of the mammogram came through. Before opening the letter, I prayed and said, ” Let your name be glorified, you who formed me in my mother’s womb knows and cares about me. Thank You for these results.” Then I opened the letter.
Proverbs 27: Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring forth.
Let’s give our all to him the Lord of Lords.

(07/13/09)